I promised myself to finish this article on Sunday because I am currently studying for the History of Enogastronomy exam (give me a good "good luck", I have the exam on January 14!), However after writing this article "Women of wine and critics: you really broke my… breadsticks!”And having witnessed an unexpected rumble on Social Networks I still have to add something. For me, the situation got out of hand at all. You are immolating Ziliani on the altar of a feminism that I am honestly ashamed of. And I'm ashamed of Donna. Never, and I stress never, especially with the arguments - even heated ones - of the past, I would have thought of writing an article that someone can read as a defense of Franco Ziliani. Moreover, this reflection falls short because not later than ten days ago I discussed animatedly with my husband Francesco on the situation of the woman and in detail on the terrible ones, and once again embarrassing, pink quotas.
Then, that Franco Ziliani wrote a provocative and at times "sad" article using expressions that he could have avoided, you already know I think so. And he knows too that I think so. Moreover, I am sorry because the object of criticism - correct and legitimate because the one shot by Laura Donadoni was really a supercazzola - has passed into the background. And if someone has objected to me that it is not possible to evaluate the competence of a person from a single topic, I answer that A) if I do not know about a topic, I remain silent that guaranteed I look better and B) the role of sugar in wine is something fundamental, one of those things that just needs to be known. Nobody knows everything, the world of wine is really wide. We all have to learn and we will all learn a little more with each passing day. However, it is one thing not to know a vine, a wine or a producer ... and another thing is not knowing how winemaking and wine work.
"If she really is, as people in the mood for comedy define her as the" Italian wine ambassador ", how can one think that Italian wine has a future if not a tragic one?"
From the article by Franco Ziliani Other than Maroni and Gardini, the true image of wine is the Italian wine girl!
Here, the part "as people in the mood for comedy define it" for me is wrong and disparaging. However, that a journalist has doubts about the future of Italian wine if a person who is defined as an "Ambassador of Italian wine in the world" does not know how sugar works in wine and in the winemaking process is more than legitimate for me.
Franco Ziliani's blog is one of the most read wine blogs in Italy. So, as I have already written, Franco for me should use more "gallant" and less polemical tones and not only when he addresses a woman but when he addresses all those he does not share. Not only women, but also men must be protected. At this point, however, I return to the speech I was making on pasta, of supply and demand: if Franco Ziliani's blog is one of the most read, it means that it is liked. Exactly like Barilla pasta or boobs on Instagram. So for me those who make numbers are right and that's it. Franco Ziliani makes numbers by making controversy. In Italy the controversy is liked or the TV would not be full of junk programs with screaming celebrolesi. At least in Ziliani's blog there are also interesting contents, between a cynical sarcasm and the other, something that I rarely find on TV… and perhaps for that reason I limit myself to watching movies on Netflix. Likewise the Wine Influencers who make numbers showing cm of skin. Supply and demand where everyone is right. End.
We are in an era where those who have the power of numbers - better still combined with the possession of sensitive data - rule the world. For those who still had a doubt, Facebook has proven to be superior to the President of the United States of America by blocking Trump's profile as long as the newly elected President Biden takes office. And is there anyone who still wants to be here philosophizing about what is right and what is wrong? Those who make numbers have the power in their hands. Whoever holds the power is right, even if we disagree or don't like it. And it's time we all put it into our heads.
Franco Ziliani is wrong, and also grossly, when - not considering the weight that one of his words can have even just for the multiplicity of people who read it - it destroys the reputation of a person or a company. And I don't mean much to this specific case. I, respecting the cellars that are made up of people, if I get a bad wine I simply ignore it. I don't like to see my blog as a space to give vent to my lowest instincts for destruction. And trust that, from time to time, they come to me as well. Behind a wine there is the work of at least one family, sometimes of several families, sometimes of many families. Intelligence is also shown by respecting this work, relocating to planet Earth where our expert opinion is not the Word of God. Even though I am an atheist, we understand each other. What I don't like may appeal to a less experienced consumer who - consequently - will be the right target of that company. Yesterday I tasted a number of wines, one of them was embarrassing to say the least. You will never extort the name from me.
From here, however, to define the article by Franco Ziliani a violence against women passes of wine in glasses! I've been reading Franco Ziliani's blog since I've been a wine blogger - that is, since 2014 - and I can assure you that he shoots at zero on women and men in equal measure, so it is definitely not sexist. At most he sins of presumption when a priori considers a person younger than him less prepared. Here, this one of Franco honestly makes me angry: my experience is not made up of the years I have - and they are already 35 - but from what I have studied and drunk. To put it simply, hard-hitting proof: would you prefer to have your heart operated on by a 65-year-old general practitioner or a 35-year-old heart surgeon? Having more than 60 years and thirty years or more of experience in any sector is not in itself a guarantee of competence. The guarantee of competence is that the person is prepared and keeps himself constantly updated. Then of course, thirty years or more of experience - if spent well - make that person particularly prepared. However, we must never judge a priori on anything. Also because culture is full of nuances and its beauty lies in this diversity. The nuances are our interests, our stimuli and these create a different approach and a different sensitivity to things. Franco Ziliani should not "make war" against young people, but at the most help them grow as a "father" would. Already Italy is a country that protects the old and kills the young, where I have to work to keep ninety-year-olds who have been a burden for the state for more than fifty years thanks to Baby Pensions. And forgive me if I'm politically incorrect to say it, but what pisses me off is not so much, very much. All we need is that the journalists of the old guard consider us young people as idiots a priori. Cretins have no age. Just like the incompetent.
In recent days, however, I have seen much heavier criticism for Ziliani than those he addressed to Laura Donadoni. I even read that he would have had his two minutes of fame thanks to her. Now let's not exaggerate, at the most it is she who rides the wave to get publicity. And let it be clear that Laura does very well for me (I would have done the same thing): as I said advertising is never enough.
"And whose recent photos make me think that she has profoundly changed from the very charming lady she once was as she became thin shin to make me sad (did she become vegan?)"
From the article by Franco Ziliani Other than Maroni and Gardini, the true image of wine is the Italian wine girl!
We all agree that this comment on Laura's appearance is out of place. I try to speak the same words. In fact, it's like someone writing about me that I'm less charming than I used to be because I'm overweight. Ohibò, don't tell me! I think it's true, it is no coincidence that I went on a diet! That I am overweight and Laura is very thin is a fact, I think we both know. There is no need to write it down or tell us. However calling it an act of sexism, cyber bullying and violence against women sorry, but it pisses me off.
I can only say: blessed are you that psychological or physical violence does not know how it is done. I have had three experiences in my life of psychological violence which fortunately are now part of my past. The worst was with my last ex, because it lasted in the days and months just following the death of my beloved father. The period of my life when I was most fragile. Toxic people always creep in when we are weaker and sometimes getting out of them is really very hard because we have now entered the spiral of devaluation. We are convinced that we are not worth much and deserve less.
Today I am the same again, indeed if I may say so I have perhaps even more self-esteem than before. My salvation was my husband Francesco who reminded me of what it means to feel loved and appreciated after a violent man who demolished me for 9 months making me constantly feel like shit both physically, both professionally and in terms of prospects future. It goes without saying that he is really ugly, inside and out, and in normal times - that is, far from my father's illness - I would never have deigned to look at him.
Then a I'm sorry if I don't accept that too much sentence written on a blog, even if it is wrong, is defined as psychological violence. "Psychological violence it is a set of acts, words or moral tortures, threats and intimidations used as an instrument of coercion and oppression to force others to act against their will ". Ziliani did not threaten Laura Donadoni or force her to do anything against her will.
Do you want to bring up the topic of gender-based violence? Violence against women is defined as:
"Any act of gender-based violence that causes or is likely to cause physical, sexual or psychological harm, including threats of violence, coercion or arbitrary deprivation of personal liberty, in both public and private life."
From the “Dichiaraaction on the elimination of violence against women ”approved by the UN in 1993
Defining the "Ziliani-Donadoni case" a case of violence against women is a very serious thing because it lowers the perceived severity of violence against women, the real one.
Dear women, forgive me for saying that from what I have read it is clear to me that the vast majority of you do not know what violence against women is. This gives me great pleasure: I wish you to remain ignorant. However, let me make a short list that can enlighten you or remind you of what violence against women is.
There is violence against women in the domestic environment exercised through threats, physical or psychological abuse, beatings, sexual abuse, money control, prohibition from engaging in work activities, prohibition of assets, honor crimes and passionate or premeditated murder. And I don't want to talk about incest, especially of younger daughters whose mothers are obliged to be secretly accomplices.
There is violence against women in the workplace through sexual harassment, sexual abuse, sexual blackmail and rape. Towards lesbians, the so-called "corrective rapes" are still practiced today.
Sexual slavery, forced marriages, forced prostitution, victims of trafficking and ethnic rape exist on women in the social environment. And I don't want to talk about female genital mutilation and other barbaric practices.
In addition to the femicide that we all know, I would not like you to forget the systemic femicide that takes place for example in India and China. This materializes in selective abortion: women are induced to give birth only to male children because they are more desired and socially accepted. We are talking about about 117 million girls killed for the one-child policy up to 2015 (although in some rural areas the problem is still present now) before or after birth. There is talk of 23 million selective abortions of which about 12 million in China. Of women victims or executioners with a broken heart because of a stupid tradition.
Sorry if I reach out by saying that an estimate says that there are about 40 million missing women in China. The "missing women of today" are girls who were never born between the 2030s and 25s, girls killed immediately after birth or those abandoned in the first months of life. The result? It is estimated that by 3.000, 13.000% of Chinese XNUMX-year-olds will never find a woman to marry. And this is how the trafficking of women from poor Myanmar is increasing, where minors are sold for figures ranging from XNUMX to XNUMX dollars.
Without going to the other side of the world, thousands of women in Italy suffer physical or psychological violence every year. Women still struggle to make a career in the workplace due to motherhood. Gender equality in 2021 does not yet exist, but neither the pink quotas nor the unjustified victimization will solve this great scourge of humanity.
I was among the first to reply to Franco Ziliani telling him to stop with certain useless and out of place jokes. After 4 days, after all the bullshit I read on social media, I want to say that I dissociate myself from the definition of violence against women that was given to what happened. If before it was Franco who threw a correct observation into caciara with his ungalant ways (I would say more poisonous and full of useless sarcasm), now it was you women of wine who threw my answer into chaos and what happened to Laura. Dear colleagues, dear women of wine: rather reply to Franco with your arguments by showing that he has broken everyone's breadsticks with his poisonous pen.
With my heart, woman to woman, I ask you instead to stop talking about violence. If you want - like me - fighting violence against women started with giving things the right name and, above all, the right weight.
PS The comment of the producer Favaro instead remains sexist and unspeakable.
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