It takes courage to change. It takes courage to fail. Change and failure require a rare ability: that of daring. Dare is the common denominator of all those verbs that belong to a single word: destruction. The Treccani dictionary defines destruction as 'The action of destroying and the effect that follows, slaughter, massacre, ruin'. The explanation is belligerent and leaves no room for positivity. Yet my father taught me that destruction is only the path to transformation.
I was on the phone with my mother earlier and, moved, she read me this wonderful poem by Charlie Chaplin. I was moved too and I was moved again to transcribe it here on my wine blog. These sentences are the perfect incipt of the emotions I want to share with you who read me today.
"Live' by Charlie Chaplin
I have forgiven almost unforgivable mistakes,
I tried to replace irreplaceable people
and forgotten unforgettable people.
I acted on impulse,
I have been let down by people
that I didn't think they could do it,
but I, too, was disappointed.
I held someone in my arms to protect him;
made friends for eternity.
I laughed when it was not necessary,
I have loved and been loved back,
but I was also rejected.
I was loved and could not reciprocate.
I shouted and jumped for many joys, many.
I lived on love and made promises of eternity,
but I have burnt my heart out many times!
I cried while listening to the music or looking at the pictures.
I phoned only to hear a voice.
I am again in love with a smile.
Again I thought I was dying of nostalgia and...
I was afraid of losing someone very special
(which I ended up losing)...
but I survived!
And still alive!
And life, it does not tire me...
And you won't get tired of it either.
It is really good to fight with persuasion,
embrace life and live with passion,
lose with class and win by daring,
because the world belongs to those who dare!
Life is too beautiful to be insignificant!
We are a piece of land and, event after event, year after year, we build on it a small house or a large villa. The house is a mirror of us. If we are empty and superficial, we only take care of the garden and the facade of the house and then sit on ruined chairs where we eat, in cheap dishes, bad food. If we are profound and introverted to the point of neglecting others we only look after the interior, and the façade of the house, which is falling apart, is wrapped in a tangle of brambles. It takes balance. A house we don't like can be demolished and rebuilt or renovated. Sometimes renovating costs much more than demolishing and rebuilding. Renovating a house we don't like involves saving an old wall even if in that position it is really inconvenient for the functionality of the room or its beauty. Renovating a house involves having a used house that only looks new. This renovated house will never be 100% what we want it to be even if we have spent a lot of money on it. Yet, in order not to leave our comfort zone, we are willing to adapt, and then, depending on our way of being, complain or pretend for a lifetime.
Change. Fail. Dare.
As a child I had a dream: to live writing in a beautiful house overlooking the lake with my prince charming. In my life I have always dared. I have never made a big deal of risking, changing, demolishing, failing. I have always built from scratch: restructuring is not part of me! I radically changed my career path to realise my dream and I succeeded. And the famous Prince Charming? From the age of 16 to 34, I had eight more or less long, more or less important relationships. As many or as few as they were, I was often judged for my leaving without looking back. Alberto, Gabriele, Claudio, Daniele, Matteo, Francesco, Davide, Antonio. Three great loves of which I retain beautiful memories, three photonic assholes that I can't believe I put up with and two toxic affairs. Of them only the first one was really close to what I unknowingly sought and desired. Yet even with him I couldn't stop. I was just a young girl and I acted on impulse, as with every choice in my life. Today I realised that I was only preparing to meet the other half of the apple, which, believe me, exists.
Up to you.
On the same day that I got engaged to him 18 years later, as if to signify a closing circle, I met the needle of the scales capable of breaking the bank. It was 6 December 2019. I knew it was Him the first time I looked into his eyes. Everything that happened after that was just confirmation. Every nuance of our relationship was as I had always dreamed it would be. We are not perfect, but we are perfect for each other. I remember the prophetic words of my dear Marco Antonucci, who at Christmas made me a signed card saying that by 31 January we would start living together. In fact, I cannot tell you the exact date, but it was definitely the last week of January! I still have this note in my wallet and there I will keep it forever. I remember my dear Marina Tagliaferri from the Agora press agency who, during our wonderful Valentine's Day 2020 at Spessa CastleHe looked at us and said: when you get married, I want to be the best man!
Ca' del Bosco Dosage Zéro Noir 2006 Vintage Collection: a Franciacorta to say yes to!
I visited the cellar Ca' del Bosco on 12 October 2015. I was given this precious bottle in an elegant black box. I always thought I would save it for a special occasion. I can wait. In these 4 years and 7 months, this box has changed three homes. It has seen me laugh and cry with 4 different men without ever opening, until yesterday. On 12 May 2020, on the beautiful lake-view terrace of our house, after you played the song you wrote for me and put this beautiful ring on my finger, I uncorked it. The pinot noir grapes from the three 'Belvedere' vineyards in Iseo at an altitude of 466 metres above sea level were harvested on 5 September 2006. The drawing was done on 30 March 2007 and the disgorging in summer 2015. The result? A masterpiece with less than 4 g/l of sulphites (the legal limit is 185 g/l) that has preserved beautifully.
The grapes, hand-picked in small crates, are immediately brought to the cellar, traced by vineyard of origin and cooled. Each bunch is selected by expert eyes and hands. The Pinot Noir berry has colourless flesh but black skin: in order to create the base for Dosage Zéro Noir, it is essential that the juice, the must extracted, remains white or slightly pink. This is why pressing is carried out strictly under low pressure, so that the skin remains intact and does not lose colour. The must thus obtained ferments in small oak barrels. In order to seek maximum aromatic complexity and expressive power, without losing elegance, the elevage in barrels lasts only 5 months. A pair of flying tanks allows the wines to be racked by gravity from the small barrels to the ageing tanks. After two further months of ageing in stainless steel, the three base wines from the three vineyards of origin are blended to achieve the perfect balance of delicacy, nervousness, vinosity and aroma. The Pinot Noir imparts its complex red fruit aromas to the wine and gives it body, persistence in the mouth and longevity. The magic of its terroir, combined with the skills of the men, have resulted in a wine of exceptional purity. Dosage Zéro Noir needs 8 years of ageing to reach its maximum qualitative expression and to develop the characteristic aromatic profile that makes it unique. A Franciacorta rightly ennobled by the 'Reserve' classification. To confer more longevity to this Franciacorta, and to avoid oxidative shocks and the addition of sulphites, dégorgement takes place in the absence of oxygen, using a unique system invented and patented by Ca' del Bosco. This technique makes our Franciacorta wines purer and more pleasant. So that this "blanc de noir" can express itself with great personality and transmit the typicality of the terroir from which it was born, we have chosen not to add any liqueur to the disgorgement, and therefore not to dose the wine. Each packaged bottle is uniquely marked to ensure traceability.
I have listened to this song 100 times in two days and I can't get enough of it. Not only is it too beautiful, but every detail is for me. I felt like Ferragni and Fedez when he sang the song to her on stage and asked her to marry him, obviously in a version with less of an audience given the quarantine... 😅
I would like to tell you that I am the happiest girl in the world, but Daddy will not be with me on my wedding day. Dad hasn't even met Francesco. So I will just tell you that I am the happiest girl in the world minus a broken heart that hurts more each day than the last.
I was afraid of losing someone very special
(which I ended up losing)...
Instagram's algorithm is incredible.
He served the video of Chaplin's poem to my mum who was moved and, after transcribing it, read it to me over the phone, inspiring this article.
He introduced Francesco and I to each other, showing us the contents of each other.
Translated, I am getting married in September also and above all thanks to Instagram. I am reminded of a colleague of mine when he said: but among your 22,000 followers, is it possible that your soul mate is not there? That's it.
Every day makes me weave beautiful relationships that grow message after message.
It makes us all closer, even to the reality around us: we do not look at news and opinions filtered by the media, but directly from the source.
Are you sure social networks are not real life?